Rethinking Work-Life Balance

Professional Wellness: What It Really Takes I’m not one to promote a one-size-fits-all notion of work/life balance. Life isn’t something to be compartmentalized—it’s one integrated experience. Instead of aiming for some elusive balance between “work” and “life,” I believe we should focus on balancing our basic needs. If you have a high need for Significance, […]
How to Erase Self-Negativity (Without Becoming a Narcissist)

April 10 is designated as National Erase Self-Negativity Day… if only it were that easy!Have you ever noticed how you can be your own worst critic? That’s true for most of us, and here’s why: 1. Our Brains Are Hardwired for Negativity Our default mode is to notice what’s wrong instead of celebrating what’s right—especially […]
Have – Do – Be Goals

While working on my goal setting for 2025, I remembered something I learned from a Choice Theory colleague, Barnes Boffey, that he called “Have – Do – Be.” Whenever a client talks about something they desire, it helps to gain clarity by asking the following questions: If people can’t answer those questions, it’s a good […]
Thanksgiving 2024

I love the end of the year because I always do a gratitude blog for Thanksgiving, a lessons learned blog for December, and a goals blog in January. It serves as a fantastic way to organize myself year by year. Since it’s 2024, I will share 24 items; I doubt anyone would read it if […]
Evaluate Your Life: The Election and You

Did you know October 19 was “Evaluate Your Life Day”? It’s a time for self-reflection on your past experiences, achievements, and challenges, and to assess where you stand. But how exactly do you evaluate your life? Which experiences should you reflect on? Which achievements should matter? What challenges should you focus on? Self-evaluation is a […]
Start Strengthening Your Emotional Wellness Today

If you knew you would be in the fight of your life tomorrow, it would be too late to begin your physical fitness conditioning today. If you haven’t already been training, you will lose that fight—it’s the same way with our emotional fitness conditioning. At some point, life is going to knock you down because […]
Time’s Up

September 17 is designated as Time’s Up Day. Doesn’t it sound ominous? It is ominous because it can make the difference between your own Mental Freedom® and lifelong regrets. Last month, I was made all too aware of how short life is and what it could be like to leave this world with things left […]
Let it Go

I love that there is a holiday in July dedicated to letting go of regrets. The third Saturday in July is designated, Toss Away Your “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day. Regretting changes nothing and perpetuates painful emotions like guilt, sadness, anxiety, and anger. Holding onto regrets about the past makes it difficult to enjoy […]
Gratitude 2024

It’s time to write another blog, and I feel a little like that old commercial, “It’s time to make the donuts!” The commitment to put out a blog every other week may not sound like much to the average reader, but I’m telling you, sometimes I just have nothing to say on command. Today is […]
Is Mental Freedom® for You?

If you can honestly say you love your life, Mental Freedom is probably not for you. It’s not that you don’t face challenges in your life, but when you do, you know how to quickly get yourself back on steady ground. If people offer you solutions for what something you can try to help you […]