While working on my goal setting for 2025, I remembered something I learned from a Choice Theory colleague, Barnes Boffey, that he called “Have – Do – Be.” Whenever a client talks about something they desire, it helps to gain clarity by asking the following questions: If people can’t answer those questions, it’s a good […]
I love the end of the year because I always do a gratitude blog for Thanksgiving, a lessons learned blog for December, and a goals blog in January. It serves as a fantastic way to organize myself year by year. Since it’s 2024, I will share 24 items; I doubt anyone would read it if […]
Did you know October 19 was “Evaluate Your Life Day”? It’s a time for self-reflection on your past experiences, achievements, and challenges, and to assess where you stand. But how exactly do you evaluate your life? Which experiences should you reflect on? Which achievements should matter? What challenges should you focus on? Self-evaluation is a […]
If you knew you would be in the fight of your life tomorrow, it would be too late to begin your physical fitness conditioning today. If you haven’t already been training, you will lose that fight—it’s the same way with our emotional fitness conditioning. At some point, life is going to knock you down because […]
September 17 is designated as Time’s Up Day. Doesn’t it sound ominous? It is ominous because it can make the difference between your own Mental Freedom® and lifelong regrets. Last month, I was made all too aware of how short life is and what it could be like to leave this world with things left […]
I love that there is a holiday in July dedicated to letting go of regrets. The third Saturday in July is designated, Toss Away Your “Could Haves” and “Should Haves” Day. Regretting changes nothing and perpetuates painful emotions like guilt, sadness, anxiety, and anger. Holding onto regrets about the past makes it difficult to enjoy […]
It’s time to write another blog, and I feel a little like that old commercial, “It’s time to make the donuts!” The commitment to put out a blog every other week may not sound like much to the average reader, but I’m telling you, sometimes I just have nothing to say on command. Today is […]
If you can honestly say you love your life, Mental Freedom is probably not for you. It’s not that you don’t face challenges in your life, but when you do, you know how to quickly get yourself back on steady ground. If people offer you solutions for what something you can try to help you […]
March 30 is “National I Am in Control Day,” a phrase declared by Alexander Haig following the assassination attempt on President Regan. This day has been commemorated to remind people to take control of their lives and choose their actions wisely. To truly be in control, you must first understand the difference between what you […]
In our many decades of working with people in the business world, clients of social services, and regular everyday people, one thing seems to be universally true: Everybody is dealing with life, and life can be hard. Many people don’t want others to know that they are struggling. Just look at your social media feeds—what […]
