The Head, Heart and Hands of Mental Freedom

In our many decades of working with people in the business world, clients of social services, and regular everyday people, one thing seems to be universally true: Everybody is dealing with life, and life can be hard.

Many people don’t want others to know that they are struggling. Just look at your social media feeds—what you tend to see is what people want you want you to see, not the reality they deal with day to day.

Most of us don’t want to admit we’re in pain, especially if it’s our job to help others. When we are viewed as the ones who have everything together, it may feel necessary to maintain the façade that we have every aspect of our lives in order. This creates a great deal of pressure, while “imposture syndrome” causes fear of others finding out you aren’t as together as you want them to think—and some days, you are holding on by a thread.

Enter Mental Freedom, a process that not only provides additional effective ways to help others but, if you’re open to its concepts, will also help you in your own life. You won’t ever have to disclose your secrets, or how Mental Freedom has benefitted you, unless you want to.

The Mental Freedom Process

Mental Freedom starts with the Mental Freedom Experience. In this first part of the process, your brain receives the information necessary for developing an intellectual understanding of the process.

The next part of the process focuses on the heart. I have always pushed back against the conventional wisdom that “knowledge is power.” I don’t believe knowledge ever adds power by itself; you must use that knowledge in a personal, relevant way for it to become power. In this phase, you take the information you learned in the brain-focused phase and put it to use in your own life in a meaningful way. Applying the concepts of Mental Freedom to your own struggles supplies the heart experience, allowing you to move forward to the next stage.

The hands stage is next. Unfortunately, many people will try to move from the head to the hands, meaning, “I have the information; now I want to teach it to others to help them live a better life.” This lacks authenticity. You must apply it to yourself first and experience Mental Freedom for yourself before you can effectively use it with others. Without the heart piece, your help is hollow, as the hands have nothing meaningful to give.

The Mental Freedom Experience is the first step, consisting of three phases with two principles, or tools, contained within each, for a total of six principles that are learned in just six one-hour sessions for individuals or two-hour sessions for groups.

Open Your Heart: Get along better with the important people in your life.

  1. Responsibility vs. Response-ability: In this principle, participants learn how to take responsibility for what is theirs, which comprises one’s own actions, thoughts, needs, decisions, and happiness in addition to half of all relationships one has. They also discover the things they choose to be response-able for.
  1. The Unconditional Trust Challenge: We sacrifice our Mental Freedom when we trust people to match the picture we have of them in our heads, meet our expectations, or do what we want them to do. People do not operate that way. There is one thing you can trust everyone to do, and when you learn to trust in this way, people don’t have the power to disappoint you.

Free Your Mind: Get your mind functioning for you instead of against you.

  1. Disempowering vs. Empowering Language: You can sacrifice your Mental Freedom with the things you say out loud, as well as the things you think. By eliminating the phrases that disempower you and replacing them with empowering language, you can reclaim Mental Freedom. With this tool, you learn how to shift from a “have to” to a “want to” mindset, and you will never have to do anything again!
  2. Changing Your Narrative: Ever notice that you have a running commentary in your head about all the events in your life, as well as the motivations of the people around you? Don’t know what I’m talking about? What does the voice in your head tell you when you walk into a room, and everyone stops talking? Yes, you are certain they were talking trash about you. This is because our brains are hardwired for negativity to help with our very survival. But what if they were just amazed by the way your presence filled the room? In most day-to-day experiences, our lives do not hang in the balance, so we can choose to shift from negative narratives to stories that help us feel better. When this concept is fully realized, you can drop the need for a narrative completely by embracing everything that happens in your life.

Transform Your Life: Learn about understanding and transforming your pain from negative to neutral or even positive.

  1. Signal vs. Solution: This principle teaches you to recognize your pain as a signal that something is happening you don’t like and to do something about it, rather than the alternative: blaming others or ignoring it completely. Managing pain this way can sometimes make it the best solution you have for getting even a little of what you want.
  2. Appreciating the GLOW: After learning to distinguish the difference between Signals and Solutions, you will learn how to find and appreciate the GLOW—gifts, lessons, opportunities, and wisdom—and transform your pain into something neutral or even positive with practice.

Sign up for your Mental Freedom Experience today by starting with our complimentary Mental Freedom masterclass.

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