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The Problem With Being Right
Being correct and being effective and satisfied are not the same thing. We can become so invested in proving our position that we sacrifice the
The Best Helpers Are Willing to Become Unnecessary
Success in helping isn’t measured by how indispensable you become. Sometimes it’s measured by how well someone functions when you’re no longer there. There’s a
You Can’t Motivate Another Person
Parents, teachers, managers, coaches, and counselors routinely ask some version of: How do I motivate them? Choice Theory®’s answer is an uncomfortable one: You can’t.
Every Behavior Makes Sense to the Person Choosing It
Have you ever watched someone do something and thought, Why on earth would anyone do that? I’ll bet almost everyone has. From the outside looking
Whose Goal Are We Working On?
As most helping professionals know, there is a fine line between helping, controlling, and enabling. Finding that sweet spot doesn’t come with a treasure map
What 40 Years of Choice Theory Taught Me About Mental Freedom®
I began studying William Glasser’s Reality Therapy® (RT) and Choice Theory® (CT) in October 1987 so next year will mark my 40-year anniversary. It happened
When You Can’t Change the Situation, What Can You Change?
Have you ever noticed how much of our frustration comes from things we can’t control, yet we passionately complain about them and keep bashing our
Why Simple Doesn’t Mean Easy: The Power of Practice
When I speak to people about the Mental Freedom® principles, they will often say to me, “Kim, you make this sound so easy.” My response
The Difference Between Telling and Teaching
Telling transfers information. Teaching facilitates discovery. The best teachers don’t simply give answers; they create the conditions where people begin thinking for themselves. Most of