Choice Theory and Individualistic and Collectivistic Cultures
I am always grateful for meaningful learning opportunities, but I generally prefer them more when I don’t look like an idiot in the process! I have been traveling in Asia […]
Tag: control
Seven Keys to Happiness
On my journey to self-discovery and positive growth, I’ve traveled through many of life’s ups and downs, but with the help of many awesome teachers and mentors, I now most […]
Problem with Relationships
When couples decide they want therapy, they often come seeking help for financial, sexual, time management, or parenting issues. They have trouble agreeing on what to save and what to […]
Torn between Getting Divorced and Trying One More Time?
There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound statement! Anytime you have been hurt or disappointed in your life, it is truly because someone did not do what you expected them to do. End of story!
What’s Great about Your Day
This blog has multiple purposes but one of the main ones is to help people take control of their lives by putting their time and energy into the things they have power to control and/or influence instead of trying to control everyone else in their lives. A side benefit of doing this actually helps us move closer to the people we want and need in our lives.
Relationship Tip
Sometimes your partner might want something that interferes with your ability to have what you want. It is a challenge when this happens because usually your instinctual response it to attempt to get him or her to give up what they want so you can be happy. The problem is, that rarely works.
What Do You Really Want?
InsideOut Empowerment Principle #5: When you find yourself unhappy about the conditions of your life, you should first clarify specifically what you want rather than focusing on what you want to avoid. So often, we can articulate what we don’t want but when asked to specify what we do want, we don’t know how. This is a little like making a list for the store of what you don’t need, going shopping, and expecting to come home with everything you want. It will never work.
The Only Person’s Behavior You Can Control is Your Own
The only person’s behavior you can control is your own. Pretty much everyone knows this. It’s not a new concept. However, what do you spend the majority of your time and energy doing every day? That’s right! Trying to change everyone else! Why do we do that? Because if other people change and do the work, then we don’t have to.
Developing Win/Win Outcomes
Fighting with or attempting to control through restriction or other means is usually ineffective and it costs you, your child and your relationship. In a previous post, I spoke of […]
Parenting Q & A
Q: When I was growing up, my parents were really strict and I didn’t DARE go against their wishes. I knew it just wouldn’t be worth it. They definitely controlled […]
