Overactive Kids

Parents can often feel overwhelmed by overenergetic kids. Most of the questions I receive can be categorized in three ways: kids and ADHD, kids and anger management, and kids and […]

Are You a Pleasure Junky?

If you’re a person who always seeks happiness in short-term, feel good ways, you might be a pleasure junky. They’re likely to choose junk food over good health, casual sex […]

Helping Children Tell the Truth

Even the most well-behaved children tend to lie. Sometimes the lies are about things that don’t really matter, but it can be frustrating when your child continues to lie in […]

Choice Theory

As one of my readers, you’ve likely encountered the phrase Choice Theory, but it’s possible you’ve missed out on the details. Choice Theory is an explanation of all human behavior […]

Three Steps for Surviving an Affair

It’s common for people to ask me whether or not their relationship can survive an affair, and my answer is yes. It is entirely possible with these three steps. Step […]

Problem with Relationships

When couples decide they want therapy, they often come seeking help for financial, sexual, time management, or parenting issues. They have trouble agreeing on what to save and what to […]

Torn between Getting Divorced and Trying One More Time?

There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound statement! Anytime you have been hurt or disappointed in your life, it is truly because someone did not do what you expected them to do. End of story!

Adultery and Forgiveness

Trust is the behavior you choose when you want a healthy, connected relationship. When you choose trust, you simultaneously let go of the need to punish your partner. You will stop blaming, criticizing, and stalking your partner—you’ll let go of the idea that they’ll cheat again. You extend your trust because you want to be a trusting person in a trusting relationship.