Q: I made a terrible mistake and ended a relationship with someone with
someone I truly love. I have told her how I feel and that I want her
back. She says she is not interested. She has a new boyfriend now. I
don’t know what to do. I really don’t know if I can go on without her.
I really screwed up—I didn’t think I was ready for a commitment.
A: This is a very difficult situation and I am sorry for your pain.
Unrequited love is very painful. There is an expression that says,
“Timing is everything” and I believe that is the saying that is most
applicable in your situation. If your former girlfriend is not
interested in a reconciliation at this time, you must respect her
wishes. Trying to coerce her into resuming your relationship when she
is not ready is disrespectful of her wishes. This will not engender you
to her in the long run. Be patient. If you believe you are meant to be
together, then you will find your way back to each other when the time
is right. If she doesn’t come back to you, then you need to understand
that it wasn’t meant to be and you would benefit from letting go of the
hope that you will get back together so that you, also, can start over.
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