Jealousy is one of the things that can cause major rifts in a relationship. In my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I call it the Relationship Killer. Are you the one in the relationship that tends to get jealous? Is your partner jealous of you? Do you both display jealousy at different points in your relationship? Would you like to understand it better and know what to do?

Causes of Jealousy:

1. Insecurity
The first cause of jealousy is a basic insecurity, which can be conscious or subconscious. When it’s conscious, you are aware of feeling “not good enough.” You don’t think you deserve your partner or a happy relationship. When it’s subconscious, you probably don’t consciously entertain thoughts of being not good enough but you have subconscious CDs playing in your head about how you don’t deserve to be happy. Whenever your relationship starts to feel better than you think it should, you start engaging in self-sabotage which may be the expressions of jealousy in which you engage. Read more . . .