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Transforming Yourself
“When I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.”–Lao Tzu
The first step in the change process is to let go of the familiar and comfortable. While you are holding onto who you are and have been for as long as you can remember, it’s impossible to move forward to who you really want to be. Reinventing yourself means challenging the beliefs you believe about yourself and your limitations. They were probably installed by well-meaning people but when you examine them under the microscope, you can see they no longer serve you.
School Question & Answer
Q: From a school principal using the principles of InsideOut Empowerment:
Here is the dilemma: A second-grade teacher and I have been attempting to help a second grader improve his behavior in school. He does fairly well in the classroom with the teacher nearby, but when he’s in more unstructured situations (cafeteria, bus, playground, etc.) he makes terrible choices over and over. (He is always watching to see if he can “get away with something.”)
The Academy of Choice and the Relationship Center
How are you doing on your goals for 2012? One quarter of the year is over, are you a quarter of your way to where you want to be? If not, what do you need to do to adjust and get yourself on track? You may want to take a look at our Goal Attainment System to help you actually accomplish your goals this year.
Five Solutions for Resistant Employees
As someone who does a lot of leadership training, I am surprised by how training is frequently used as the solution for all staff problems when something else might be more effective. The main factor of success involves doing a proper assessment of the situation, so before we can get to the solutions, we must understand the root causes. W. Edwards Deming says, “If you do not know how to ask the right question, you discover nothing.”
The No Drama Break Up
When you understand that everyone is doing the very best they can to get the things you want, then there is no need for a drama-filled break up. Why do people break up? Sometimes it’s because of a revelation and sometimes it’s slow building.
California Institution for Women
I just got done teaching/observing a three-day Choice Theory training with 15 inmates and one community member at the California Institute for Women. This was an incredible experience on many levels.
What is Depression?
As the Executive Director of the William Glasser Institute-US, I just want to clarify Glasser’s position on depression. Those who believe Choice Theory believe that all behavior is our best attempt to get something we want. We are not always consciously aware of what we are trying to get by using certain behavior. Depressing is a behavior that while incredibly painful and debilitating, also can have benefits.
Jealousy, Its Causes and What to Do about It
Jealousy is one of the things that can cause major rifts in a relationship. In my book, Secrets of Happy Couples, I call it the Relationship Killer. Are you the one in the relationship that tends to get jealous? Is your partner jealous of you? Do you both display jealousy at different points in your relationship? Would you like to understand it better and know what to do?
Academy of Choice
Coaching is different from counseling. A counselor helps people with serious issues. Most counseling is done in person; coaching is often done by phone. Counselors work with clients who often have diagnoses from the DSM, while coaches work with clients more in the area of self-growth and development. Coaches do not provide emergency services.