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To Be Exclusive or Not . . . That is the Question: 7 Reasons for or Against Commitment
Statistics show younger people are more likely to have children than to get married. Older people who are getting involved romantically are finding it less and less reasons to get married. Why has marriage gotten such a bad reputation?
Courage Quote
“Life shrinks or expands in proportion to one’s courage.”— Anaïs Nin
This quote speaks to how important it is to do the things we think we are destined to do. When we live our lives from the InsideOut, we are in touch with what we want to do, what we believe we are here to do, and what we have to offer others. Sometimes doing what we know we are destined to do is scary.
Is It Time To Spring Clean Your Life?
In our fast-paced, throwaway society, it’s easy to just throw something away because you’ve had it a while or you’re just simply tired of it. When you spring clean your life, the question to ask yourself is whether or not each of these areas is serving you or if it’s time for something new! Here are 12 areas to consider.
Radical Acceptance
We tend to destroy our relationships with the destructive relationship habits of complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing, all in an attempt to get our partner to change. But we rarely get the results we seek. So one thing we can do is to stop using the destructive habits and begin using the healthy relationship habits of listening, supporting, encouraging, trusting, respecting, accepting and negotiating differences.
Book Review:15-Minute Marriage Makeover
15-Minute Marriage Makeover – by Dustin Riechmann
This is a short, 100-page book on how to prioritize your marriage 15 minutes a day in a way that brings huge rewards. It’s perfect for couples in the Maintenance Stage of the Relationship Cycle. After a couple makes a lifetime commitment to each other, they slowly fall into a pattern of living their separate lives and forgot to reconnect with each other in meaningful ways. Even sex can become routine and no longer feel as satisfying as it once was.
Look In, Not Out, for the Answer
Whenever you are frustrated and thinking your problem is another person, it’s likely time to take a good look in the mirror. Our frustration comes from wanting people to do things they don’t want to do. In order to find the peace within that so many of us are seeking, it is helpful to get to a place in our lives where it really is all right for everyone to do whatever they think is best for them.
Transforming Yourself
“When I let go of who I am, I become who I might be.”–Lao Tzu
The first step in the change process is to let go of the familiar and comfortable. While you are holding onto who you are and have been for as long as you can remember, it’s impossible to move forward to who you really want to be. Reinventing yourself means challenging the beliefs you believe about yourself and your limitations. They were probably installed by well-meaning people but when you examine them under the microscope, you can see they no longer serve you.
School Question & Answer
Q: From a school principal using the principles of InsideOut Empowerment:
Here is the dilemma: A second-grade teacher and I have been attempting to help a second grader improve his behavior in school. He does fairly well in the classroom with the teacher nearby, but when he’s in more unstructured situations (cafeteria, bus, playground, etc.) he makes terrible choices over and over. (He is always watching to see if he can “get away with something.”)
The Academy of Choice and the Relationship Center
How are you doing on your goals for 2012? One quarter of the year is over, are you a quarter of your way to where you want to be? If not, what do you need to do to adjust and get yourself on track? You may want to take a look at our Goal Attainment System to help you actually accomplish your goals this year.