Q: Why do I love food so much?

A: It isn’t that you love food as much as it’s that you’re not in touch with your soul (not sole) reason for wanting to eat differently. Food has one purpose . . . to provide fuel for your body. When you expect it to do more, calm you, soothe you, love you then you are having an unhealthy relationship with food.

Most people who try to change their eating habits are focused on everything they must give up in order to be successful instead of focusing on the soul purpose for doing things differently. Instead of thinking about what you can’t eat, focus instead of what you will gain.

Ask yourself the question, “Why to I want to change my eating habits?” You will likely come up with a superficial reason such as, “I want to be healthier” or “I want to look more attractive.” Keep asking yourself, “And why is that so important to me?” until you get an answer that resonates with every fiber of your being.

I was recently working with a woman who is struggling with her weight. She began with wanting to be healthier. She went from healthier to being more attractive to finding her soul mate to knowing she is a person worthy of love. That is the soul purpose for her. It was a realization that released great pain. If she could recognize she is lovable, everything will change. Your soul reason is a game changer.

Once you identify your soul reason, then focus on that instead of the food you no longer want to eat. Restructure your thoughts to support your new habits. Eat only only things that support your soul purpose and provide healthy fuel for your body. It will be easier when you know the real reason you want to do it.