What is Love, Really?


Because there are so many levels of love, it can be difficult to define what love is. When someone says, “I love you,” how do you know what that really […]

Sexual Assault & Child Abuse Awareness Month


The month of April is both the month for sexual assault and child abuse awareness—two serious societal problems that span across many cultures. In 1987, I began working with children […]

Romance & Sex in Relationships


Some links may be affiliate links. We may get paid if you buy something or take an action after clicking one of these Eileen Buchheim created Romance Awareness Month in […]

Love yourself more than you

There are some major misconceptions in the area of couple relationships. People often think when two people commit to an exclusive relationship, “Two become one.” This is a nice, romantic […]

Torn between Getting Divorced and Trying One More Time?

There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound statement! Anytime you have been hurt or disappointed in your life, it is truly because someone did not do what you expected them to do. End of story!

Lessons I Learned from 50 Shades of Grey

Recently, I got a lot of mileage about two articles I wrote for www.yourtango.com about the 50 Shades Trilogy. It all started when Your Tango posted story ideas and one of them had to do with why women are so attracted to the Trilogy, with the supposition being that women are sexually repressed. That didn’t sit right with me. I didn’t think the attraction to the books was about sex, although some aspects of the “kinky” sex were definitely attractive. I wanted to help men understand what it was women were so attracted to in Christian Grey so they wouldn’t chalk it all up to being a billionaire, and take themselves out of the running. I then wrote an article for women about how if they want more satisfying intimacy with their partner, then they must stop comparing real people to fictional characters in books, movies and television shows.

Book Review:15-Minute Marriage Makeover

15-Minute Marriage Makeover – by Dustin Riechmann

This is a short, 100-page book on how to prioritize your marriage 15 minutes a day in a way that brings huge rewards. It’s perfect for couples in the Maintenance Stage of the Relationship Cycle. After a couple makes a lifetime commitment to each other, they slowly fall into a pattern of living their separate lives and forgot to reconnect with each other in meaningful ways. Even sex can become routine and no longer feel as satisfying as it once was.

Withholding Sex

I am part of a Facebook forum about relationships. Today someone a posted a comment declaring that if you want to know if he really loves you, then stop having sex and see if he stays. This kind of “test” or manipulation is something I cannot support.