We tend to destroy our relationships with the destructive relationship habits of complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing, all in an attempt to get our partner to change. But we rarely get the results we seek. So one thing we can do is to stop using the destructive habits and begin using the healthy relationship habits of listening, supporting, encouraging, trusting, respecting, accepting and negotiating differences.
One of the harder things for couples to negotiate is how much quality time to spend with each and how much time to spend apart. This is especially true when one partner’s highest need is for love & belonging and the other person’s highest need is for freedom.