Relationship Q & A

Q: I
made a terrible mistake and ended a relationship with someone with
someone I truly love. I have told her how I feel and that I want her
back. She says she is not interested. She has a new boyfriend now. I
don’t know what to do. I really don’t know if I can go on without her.
I really screwed up—I didn’t think I was ready for a commitment.

This is a very difficult situation and I am sorry for your pain.
Unrequited love is very painful. There is an expression that says,
“Timing is everything” and I believe that is the saying that is most
applicable in your situation. If your former girlfriend is not
interested in a reconciliation at this time, then you must respect her
wishes. Trying to coerce her into resuming your relationship when she
is not ready is disrespectful of her wishes. This will not engender you
to her in the long run.

Be patient. If you believe you are meant to be
together, then you will find your way back to each other when the time
is right. If she doesn’t come back to you, then you need to understand
that it wasn’t meant to be and you would benefit from letting go of the
hope that you will get back together so that you, also, can start over.

10 Responses

  1. Hi Jamie, Thanks for your comment. A relationship is really over, in my opinion, when one or both people have decided that the pain of staying together has become greater than their fear of change.
    I agree that too many people give up on relationship prematurely but I think it’s in large part due to the fact they don’t have a model of what to do to improve things.
    I like to think that I can provide that model for couples who really want to make things better.

  2. I’m deeply involved in relationship issues, expecially the exploration of just WHEN a relationship is over, or when it might be saved. So many people give up on a love-based relationship before it’s too late. So how do you know just when is a relationship over? When all love, respect and commitment is gone. As long as there’s a grain of those things left, there is hope that the relationship can be saved. Love-based relationships are too precious to give up on without a fight.
    Jamie London

  3. Relationships are quite complicated one has to face when in trouble, but it’s also not as bad as one would be led to believe in it.Just try to brush away all those misunderstandings and believe in the fact of making-up that relationship all you have to do is to start knowing what really went wrong and what made two humans
    who loved each other in depth to part their ways, is it because of money mis-management or something else . You can always find the answer here.

  4. At times couples are squabbing over money matters and their relationships affects
    a lot because of this. i too was one of the victim to this and i was adviced by one of my friend to get rid of this and i did …
    i thought the same way as you did a few months back when i and my partner had some issues on money matters and our relationship seemed like it is gonna sink
    and i went into depression and only on one day my friend made me realize how i could overcome my issue with this.
    And it worked for me and now, we are a happily living couple.

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