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What’s Really Important this Holiday Season?
As you get involved in the holiday season this year, let’s not forget what’s really important. It isn’t the presents, it isn’t the food or the decorations. It’s the people in our lives who are important to us.
Ask for What You Want
I know I frequently talk about problem identification, meaning the person who is most upset about a situation is the person who owns the problem and is responsible for its solution. But I don’t always focus on the initial step. The first step is to ask for what you want. We are not always good at asking directly for what we want, especially the female gender.
The Power of the Mastermind
One thing I love to be a part of is a fully functioning mastermind group. I participated in two mastermind groups today and both were
Doing What You Love and Loving What You Do
There are two ways to look at the title of this blog. One is to identify what you love and take the leap to do it for a living and the money will follow. This can work well for people like me. I am someone with a very high need for freedom and I have a lower need for survival, so I can tolerate more risk than many. The other way is to look at what you believe you have to do and change the way you see it so it actually becomes what you want to do.
When Is It OK to Violate Your Partner’s Privacy?
This question was posed today in a relationship forum. When do you think it’s all right to violate your partner’s privacy?
Withholding Sex
I am part of a Facebook forum about relationships. Today someone a posted a comment declaring that if you want to know if he really loves you, then stop having sex and see if he stays. This kind of “test” or manipulation is something I cannot support.
All Behavior is Purposeful including Stress
Whatever behavior a person engages in is their best attempt to get something he or she wants, even our emotions. We choose our behaviors based on what we believe to be our best chance to get what we want. This is not always a conscious choice, but it is a choice nonetheless. This is not to blame the victim but rather to empower the victim by helping them understand they choose their behavior and so consequently can choose to do things differently if they want to.
The Wedding
This weekend, I attended the most wonderful wedding of my son, Kyle, and his lovely wife, Jesse. They had a tough road and I wanted to document their story. It’s a good one.
Leadership: Majority Rules or Concensus
This is one time when I don’t have an opinion of what’s right or wrong. I really don’t know the answer to this challenge. Is there anyone out there who operates everything based on consensus? How long does it take? Is the time worth it? Are there keys to moving more quickly toward consensus? What are the benefits of using majority rules instead?