Speaking / Training
Couples

Relationships with your Partner

In all the time I have worked with couples, I have never seen a relationship fail simply because of one person’s failings or shortcomings. Both people contribute to the break up of a relationship. To me, it only makes sense to look at our own contribution to the mix. Why? We are wasting our energy trying to get our partner to change. People pretty much are who they are and they do what they do until they, themselves, are ready to change.

Relationships from the InsideOut:

Learn to discern who owns the problem about which you complain.
Take responsibility for your own problems and their subsequent solutions.
Understand your basic needs and the needs of your partner.
Learn to avoid the destructive relationship habits.
Begin to substitute healthy relationship habits instead.
Create the perception that just because someone else sees things differently from you, doesn’t make either of you “wrong.”
Avoid jealousy and increase trust.
Move forward after an affair.
Negotiate in a way that you win, the other person wins, and your relationship is strengthened.
Advance from conflict, to tolerance, to acceptance, and finally, to appreciation.
Consciously give your partner what he or she wants instead of offering what you would want in a similar situation.
Effectively evaluate the three relationship options of changing it, accepting it or leaving it.
Stop being victimized by another person’s behavior.
Discern when and how to let go and move forward with integrity and dignity.

Improve Your Relationships!

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I do not mind at all sharing a comment about the training. I was and am very excited about choice theory. I feel that it would have helped my son a lot had it been available when he was in 9th grade. I really appreciated Kim’s stories. They were relatable to me because I too have a child with a lot of the qualities of the students I will be working with. They also drove a point home. She was very personal and opened up to us a lot and it was helpful to understand the different way we all perceive information. I learned a lot and plan on incorporating it into my classroom this year.

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As a couple’s counselor, I have noticed some patterns with my clients that can lead to challenges and they center around misunderstood differences. When two people fall in love, commit

Kim Olver June 28, 2023

Speaking / TrainingCouples