When I did the research for my Secrets of Happy Couples book, I learned that 87% of the respondents had answered that they had never had an intimate relationship outside their primary committed relationship with their partners. These were couples who had been together at least ten years, with both identifying that they were happy […]
July 7 is Global Forgiveness Day. It was created in 1994 by the Christian Embassy of Christ’s Ambassadors, but forgiveness applies to all people regardless of religion. It is a day to inspire the act and receiving of forgiveness. If you are seeking spiritual or religious forgiveness, then that is between you and the Divine. I […]
In honor of yesterday’s Global Forgiveness Day, I wanted to write about the importance of forgiveness. One of the components of Mental Freedom® is the concept of Unconditional Trust. If you know about this concept, you know I started it as the Unconditional Trust Challenge. The idea is to start trusting everyone to do one […]
Mental Freedom®: “Free your mind, open your heart and transform your life.” Our minds are filled with rules, beliefs, values and other information we picked up as children, into adulthood and still today. Some of it serves us but much of it doesn’t. I have developed a system for freeing your mind so you can […]
“No one ever broke your heart; they broke your expectations.” This quote from Kyle Cease is a significant quote for me because I was sure I had been broken-hearted several times in my life. What was he saying, that no one ever broke my heart? Surely, that couldn’t be true. However, I had recently experienced […]
In my series on basic needs and self-care, I saved the best for last. I think Connection is the best—probably because it’s my highest personal need, but also because, out of the five needs, its fulfillment is the most important to your overall well-being. Everyone needs someone to love and someone to be loved by […]
We have been taught to believe that trust is a commodity earned by others. Once they have passed certain tests, then we feel safe to extend our trust. In my consulting with several different companies, I found a lack of trust at the root of many of their problems. Sometimes the lack of trust is […]
Most people would agree that forgiving others is a good thing to do, but why is that? First, let’s define forgiveness. Some people say that forgiving means letting go of the hurt, anger, and frustration caused by another individual. It is very important to let go of these emotions so you do not poison yourself […]
If you and your spouse have decided to divorce, for your children’s sake, you must cooperatively parent them through your divorce as a team. Even if it seems like one day your spouse announced to you he or she wants a divorce, you can be certain your spouse considered it for a long time. Divorce is rarely an easy snap decision, especially when kids are involved.
There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound statement! Anytime you have been hurt or disappointed in your life, it is truly because someone did not do what you expected them to do. End of story!
