In our book, Leveraging Diversity at Work, Sylvester Baugh and I write about the dangers of stereotyping. The Buddhist parable about the six blind men and the elephant wonderfully illustrates […]
Some of you may have heard Kirstie Alley on Ellen talking about how she is going to start dating “ugly men” this year. She said she always went for the players and attractive guys but has had two divorces so this year she is going to date ugly men. Kirstie is making a common relationship mistake. When relationships don’t work out over and over again, we tend to look at the people we are choosing to find the commonality to determine, “What’s wrong with them?” It is much more painful, albiet productive, to take a look in the mirror and ask the question, “Why do I keep repeating this same pattern in my relationships?” It’s rarely about the other person, and almost always about ourselves.