Do you know someone who seems bigger than life, is able to leap tall buildings in a single bound and is stronger than forged steel? Sometimes we attribute superhero qualities […]
We tend to destroy our relationships with the destructive relationship habits of complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing, all in an attempt to get our partner to change. But we rarely get the results we seek. So one thing we can do is to stop using the destructive habits and begin using the healthy relationship habits of listening, supporting, encouraging, trusting, respecting, accepting and negotiating differences.
Kim Olver, MS., NCC., LCPC helps people get along better with the important people in their lives, including themselves, at home and at work. She is the award winning author of Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life, and has also contributed to Whole Living, Women’s World, Fitness Magazine, Law of Attraction Magazine and Counseling Today. She co-authored Leveraging Diversity at Work: How to Hire, Retain, and Inspire a Diverse Workforce for Peak Productivity and Performance with Sylvester Baugh and co-authored a book with Ken Blanchard, Les Brown, Mark Victor Hansen and Byron Katie, entitled 101 Great Ways to Improve Your Life
It’s time for the end of the alphabet of our Relationship ABCs. Learn the R-Z part so your relationship will sizzle, not fizzle.
Some of you may have heard Kirstie Alley on Ellen talking about how she is going to start dating “ugly men” this year. She said she always went for the players and attractive guys but has had two divorces so this year she is going to date ugly men. Kirstie is making a common relationship mistake. When relationships don’t work out over and over again, we tend to look at the people we are choosing to find the commonality to determine, “What’s wrong with them?” It is much more painful, albiet productive, to take a look in the mirror and ask the question, “Why do I keep repeating this same pattern in my relationships?” It’s rarely about the other person, and almost always about ourselves.