I often look at the many observances in a month for ideas of what to blog about. For the first time, I noticed two in March that grabbed my attention: Everything You Think is Wrong Day on March 15 and Everything You Do is Right Day on March 16. That strange juxtaposition sparked something within […]
I was recently reminded of how faulty our perceptions can be, particularly in our relationships and especially in our digital communication. Perception is affected by so many variables, starting with how strong our senses are. Have you ever smelled something no one else smelled? Or someone saw something you didn’t? Perhaps you heard something that […]
Some links may be affiliate links. We may get paid if you buy something or take an action after clicking one of these September has been dubbed Self-Awareness Month, but what exactly does self-awareness mean? You might know when someone has it, and it’s rather obvious when someone doesn’t, but if it’s not your strong […]
It’s probably not well known that June is designated Effective Communication Month. Even while effective communication is one of the most important pieces of a solid relationship, two people in a relationship might not share the same idea of what that is. When most people think of communication, they think of the typical exchange between […]
Choice Theory has helped me to create an amazing life. I am so grateful to have learned Choice Theory® psychology when I was just 27. The only thing that would have been better than that is if my parents and teachers all knew it and shared it with me from the time I was born […]
There are some major misconceptions in the area of couple relationships. People often think when two people commit to an exclusive relationship, “Two become one.” This is a nice, romantic sentiment, but I can’t figure out how it happens. Two people are still two individual people attempting to make a healthy, loving relationship and life […]
If we’re connected on Facebook, then it’s likely you’ve noticed my posts often end with, “What’s great about your day?” Some people understand why I do that, and others assign nefarious motives. I am writing this post to share my rationale and to invite like-minded people to do the same. Unlike some people, I like […]
Whatever happens in the outside world has no meaning other than the meaning you give it. This is not a new concept, but it is a difficult one to put into practice, unless you’ve had some guidance and experience under your belt. Whenever things happen, we tend to place a value on them by labeling […]
InsideOut Empowerment Principle #5: When you find yourself unhappy about the conditions of your life, you should first clarify specifically what you want rather than focusing on what you want to avoid. So often, we can articulate what we don’t want but when asked to specify what we do want, we don’t know how. This is a little like making a list for the store of what you don’t need, going shopping, and expecting to come home with everything you want. It will never work.
Whatever happens in the outside world has no meaning other than the meaning you give it. Again, this is not a new concept but it is one that’s a little difficult to put into practice unless you’ve had some guidance and experience under your belt. When things happen we tend to place a value on them by labeling them as “good,” “bad,” “right” or “wrong.” This is not a terrible practice as long as you are only labeling things within your own life and not trying to push your assigned values onto others.
