In honor of Happiness Happens Month, I wanted to write about what makes people happy. I am an avid Choice Theory enthusiast and have been studying the work of William Glasser my entire adult life. Glasser made the distinction between pleasure and happiness by saying pleasure feels good, but in order to experience happiness, you […]
“No one ever broke your heart; they broke your expectations.” This quote from Kyle Cease is a significant quote for me because I was sure I had been broken-hearted several times in my life. What was he saying, that no one ever broke my heart? Surely, that couldn’t be true. However, I had recently experienced […]
Since April is Stress Awareness Month, I’ll share some things you can do to stress less in your life. Relax: Relaxing is not something that comes easily in our fast-paced, technology-driven world. With a computer in virtually every hand, it is challenging to disconnect, but doing so can mitigate the effects of stress. Practicing mindfulness—deep […]
If you’re a person who always seeks happiness in short-term, feel good ways, you might be a pleasure junky. They’re likely to choose junk food over good health, casual sex over a committed relationship, and impulse spending over long-term saving. Pleasure junkies want to feel good most of the time, and they rely on things […]
When looking for the cause of their unhappiness and frustration, most people look outside of themselves. After all, wouldn’t life be perfect if the significant people in our lives would simply do things the way we think is best? Unfortunately, it’s this kind of thinking that perpetuates the misery. Most of today’s unhappiness centers on […]
On my journey to self-discovery and positive growth, I’ve traveled through many of life’s ups and downs, but with the help of many awesome teachers and mentors, I now most often live in a state of happiness and contentment. This article summarizes much of what I’ve learned on my journey; I still have lots to […]
by Kim Olver My friend recently wrote something on Facebook that, for me, sparked some further thinking: “I used to worry about people I love. Now I just love them.” Later that same day, a client of mine shared a story about her mind wandering while home with her husband on a Saturday night. She […]
There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound statement! Anytime you have been hurt or disappointed in your life, it is truly because someone did not do what you expected them to do. End of story!
As I reflect on 2016, I wanted to record some of the things I have learned. (Thank you Crystal Alston for the idea.) My last post was about “Relax, Reflect, Rejuvenate, Renovate, Remind.” Yesterday, I began a scheduled meditation practice for 2017. Today, I did some reflection on 2016 and future posts will talk about […]
May is Mental Health Awareness Month. We will go to the doctor for a physical checkup but how many of us engage in a mental health checkup? The goals of my process, InsideOut Empowerment, provides us with ten things we can do to improve our well-being and increase our happiness.
