Addiction & Recovery: A Compassionate Perspective

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The U.S. Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration defines September as National Recovery Month, a national observance held every September to promote and support new evidence-based treatment and recovery […]

Social Wellness Month

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July is Social Wellness Month—a reminder that relationships are key to a healthy lifestyle. Humans have a need for connection; some of us have a stronger need than others. If […]

Hope: It’s hard to live without it

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April has been designated the National Month of Hope. Other than healthy, satisfying relationships, I can’t think of anything more important to a person’s mental health than hope. Some people […]

Journaling: A Dozen Benefits

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Are You a Pleasure Junky?

If you’re a person who always seeks happiness in short-term, feel good ways, you might be a pleasure junky. They’re likely to choose junk food over good health, casual sex […]

Behavior is Always Proactive

InsideOut Empowerment Principle #3: Every behavior you choose, including your feelings, is designed to get you something you want. It is always proactive; never reactive, except for instinctual responses, for example sneezing, the startle response, or crying in response to pain. As long as we believe our behavior is reactive, then we are giving power and control to circumstances beyond our control and other people. For example, do you often say in the course of the day, “He makes me so mad”! Or can you hear yourself saying, “This situation is just so frustrating”? Those statements are simply not true. Nothing outside of you can create your emotions or generate a particular behavior in you. Your behavior is always created internally, motivated by and designed to get you something you want.

Your Perception is Your Reality and You Can Change It

Whatever happens in the outside world has no meaning other than the meaning you give it. Again, this is not a new concept but it is one that’s a little difficult to put into practice unless you’ve had some guidance and experience under your belt. When things happen we tend to place a value on them by labeling them as “good,” “bad,” “right” or “wrong.” This is not a terrible practice as long as you are only labeling things within your own life and not trying to push your assigned values onto others.