What to Consider when Hiring a Counselor

April is Counseling Awareness Month, and while I’m pretty sure that most of you are aware of counseling, do you know how to be a good consumer of counseling services? If you are seeking a counselor to help you with a specific issue, how do you know which one to choose? Do you just start […]
Counselors Turned Coaches: Lessons Learned

I hang out with a lot of counselors, therapists and social workers, and many of them are discouraged about the same things: clients who don’t seem to want to make progress, involuntary clients who come kicking and screaming, the long hours of supervision required to get one’s license, the amount of time spent doing paperwork […]
Counseling: Three Choices Equals Freedom
When working with clients, have you ever encountered someone who knows what they want but has no clue of what to do to get there? If you were trained as I was, then you were taught that, in order for a plan to be successful, it’s important that your client is the one to craft […]
Helping Kids After Divorce When One Parent Stops Parenting
The ideal divorce is done respectfully, without malice and blame. Throughout the transition, the parents support each other and work together to co-parent their children. If step-parents are introduced, everyone works together to create a unified parenting team. Does this sound like a fantasy to you? Is this not the way your divorce is going? Are your children suffering because your ex has left them in the divorce too? This is not ideal, but there are still things you can do to help your children through this.
Book Review: Contemporary Issues in Couples Counseling
I was recently honored to be asked to contribute a chapter to a book entitled, Contemporary Issues in Couples Counseling: A Choice Theory and Reality Therapy Approach. This book was written to legitimize Reality Therapy as a method of counseling for systemic issues. It’s not just for individuals.
How to Improve Your Physical and Emotional Health
InsideOut Empowerment Principle #6: Much of our health, both physical and emotional, is strongly affected by our actions and our thoughts, both of which we have the power to change. If you don’t like the emotions you are experiencing or your current state of health, you can indirectly affect change by changing your actions and/or your thinking.
Relationship Q & A
Q: I found your site due to arguing with my fiancé once again about his anger. I love him more than anything but he really needs to learn to control himself. He told me he would go to counseling if I wouldn’t leave him but he didn’t go. Now, he’s saying he likes his anger […]