Some of you may have heard Kirstie Alley on Ellen talking about how she is going to start dating “ugly men” this year. She said she always went for the players and attractive guys but has had two divorces so this year she is going to date ugly men. Kirstie is making a common relationship mistake. When relationships don’t work out over and over again, we tend to look at the people we are choosing to find the commonality to determine, “What’s wrong with them?” It is much more painful, albiet productive, to take a look in the mirror and ask the question, “Why do I keep repeating this same pattern in my relationships?” It’s rarely about the other person, and almost always about ourselves.
This post is a continuation of the one posted on March 10, 2009. In that one, I spoke about learning life’s lesson from every relationship you have. That was one half of the equation to creating the relationship you deserve. The other half is about preparing yourself to be the kind of person who will […]
Relationships generally begin when both people are in the “Alone Stage,” although I am aware that often affairs begin when one or both partners are involved with someone else. It is my contention that relationships have a greater chance of success when both parties have spent some time alone and unconnected with a lover. What […]
When it comes to relationships, I believe there are four stages one must go through. First is the “Alone Stage.” This is where you realize it’s better to be alone than with the “wrong” person. This is the stage where you learn to be all right with being alone. Alone doesn’t automatically equate with lonely. […]
