January has been designated Self-Love Month. How would you define self-love? How do you know you’re doing it right, or even working toward it? These are the questions I was asking myself before I wrote Choosing Me Now. I know what it feels like to be in love with someone—the butterflies in my stomach, my […]
May is Foster Care Awareness Month. Foster care is a strong interest and personal cause of mine. I spent 17 years working with a specialized foster care agency in Pennsylvania. I loved the work and the kids I met during my tenure, even though there were some practices that created more harm than good. It […]
I intended to write about something other than coronavirus this week, but as the severity of the situation drastically increased, I feel compelled to write about the reality of most people in the world. I find it interesting how the world’s reaction to coronavirus parallels Kubler-Ross’s stages of grief. I’ve learned that the process of […]
Some links may be affiliate links. We may get paid if you buy something or take an action after clicking one of these A bit more than a decade ago, I realized I wanted to write a book on relationships, and two years after that, Secrets of Happy Couples was published in 2011. There were […]
Some links may be affiliate links. We may get paid if you buy something or take an action after clicking one of these I believe it is time for a social movement—a revolution, if you will. I’m calling it Radical Responsibility and Awesome Appreciation. It is based on the work of many giants who have […]
We tend to destroy our relationships with the destructive relationship habits of complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing, all in an attempt to get our partner to change. But we rarely get the results we seek. So one thing we can do is to stop using the destructive habits and begin using the healthy relationship habits of listening, supporting, encouraging, trusting, respecting, accepting and negotiating differences.
Today I was asked for five tips for improving the love between spouses but I would extend my answer to any loving, committed relationship.
1. Love as if this could be your partner’s last day on earth.
Today I thought we’d talk about the friend to friend relationship. Included in this category are healthy intimate relationships, as well. When you are in a friend/friend relationship, external control is practically never external used. If you were to use external control with your friends on a regular basis, you would soon discover you don’t have any.
