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The Law of Attraction magazine is jam-packed with wonderful articles from well-known people. It has sections on money, health and love. In the love section alone, there are articles by Gary Chapman, author of The Five Love Languages, Gary Zukav, author of Seat of the Soul, and yours truly, author of Secrets of Happy Couples.
We tend to destroy our relationships with the destructive relationship habits of complaining, blaming, criticizing, nagging, threatening, punishing and bribing, all in an attempt to get our partner to change. But we rarely get the results we seek. So one thing we can do is to stop using the destructive habits and begin using the healthy relationship habits of listening, supporting, encouraging, trusting, respecting, accepting and negotiating differences.
Today I was asked for five tips for improving the love between spouses but I would extend my answer to any loving, committed relationship.
1. Love as if this could be your partner’s last day on earth.
Today I thought we’d talk about the friend to friend relationship. Included in this category are healthy intimate relationships, as well. When you are in a friend/friend relationship, external control is practically never external used. If you were to use external control with your friends on a regular basis, you would soon discover you don’t have any.