When you are in a relationship you value, it is important to subscribe to the ABCs of Relationships, mind your P & Qs and everything else from A to Z.

A – Accepting

When in a relationship, it is important to accept your partner as he or she is, instead of always trying to change him or her. If you want to embark on a self-improvement plan, start with yourself. When you don’t like something about your partner, it’s experiences as criticism.

When you accept other’s idiosyncrasies, it is the gift of unconditional love.

B = Believe

When you are in a relationship, you must believe in your partner. Believe in their abilities, believe in their dreams, and believe in their love. When you have a partnership, you believe in each other. No one should have more faith in your partner than you do.

C = Communication

Effective communication is critical to the success of intimate relationships.

D = Disagree in Private

Whenever you are having disagreements, discuss them in private. The whole world does not need to know your personal business. When you are with others, including children, parents and friends, do not look to them to take sides. Work out your issues with no spectators.

E = Encourage

Encouraging your partner is about being his or her cheerleader, helping him/her to do things s/he wants to do.

F = Friendship

When you are in a successful relationship, your partner is someone you genuinely like and with whom you share common interests. When important things happen you are excited to tell your significant other. You don’t try to manipulate him or her. You share a genuine friendship.

G = Gratitude

Be grateful every moment for your loved one’s presence in your life. You never know when a life is going to end. And remember, your loved one has a choice. He or she can always find another who will show more gratitude. Gratitude doesn’t make you weak; it makes you appealing.

H = Happiness

When you love someone, you want them to know you are happy to be with him/her. Have you ever seen how happy a dog gets when his or her owner comes home? That’s how happy you want your partner to know you are when you are with him or her.

I = Integrity

Integrity is important in all relationships but is of utmost importance in your intimate one. Say what you do & do what you say w/o exception. Do not make promises unless you intend to keep them and when you do, move heaven and earth to make it happen.

Let me know what you think and if you would add anything to my list. Stay tuned for the next installment of J to R.