“You cannot make anyone do what he or she does not want to do. We can only teach him a better way and encourage him to try it.”—Dr. William Glasser
- Learn powerful strategies to calmly manage all your life holds.
- Develop coping mechanisms to take control back in your life.
- You will no longer be a victim of your past, your emotions or your life circumstances.
- Learn an effective strategy for helping yourself and others make more effective decisions in your lives.
- Improve the significant relationships you have with the important people in your life.
- Learn strategies for more effectively getting what you want in life.
- Reduce the stress and distress you currently experience
Reality Therapy is a counseling method that was developed by Dr. William Glasser in 1965. However, it is so much more than a counseling technique. Reality Therapy is a problem solving method that works well with people who are experiencing problems they want help solving, as well as those who are having problems and appear to not want any assistance. Reality Therapy also provides an excellent model for helping individuals solve their own problems objectively and serves as the ideal questioning series during coaching sessions.
“I loved Dr. Glasser’s ideas when I heard him speak in 1991, and was certified in 1994. It was time for a review and the ebook was just right. I looked forward to reading each chapter and bringing my knowledge up to date. The personal examples demonstrating an idea were my favorites. Thank you Kim for this valuable resource at a reasonable cost.“— Beverly LaFond
The underlying key to Reality Therapy is the relationship that is established with the person who needs the help. This is most critical when you are attempting to help someone who doesn’t really want your help, such as a non-voluntary client, a resistant student or your sometimes even your own child. Without a positive relationship, you have no influence. To your helpee, you sound similar to the way adults sound in the Peanuts cartoons, “Whaa, wha, whaa, whaa, whaa.” Your helpee doesn’t hear you without the relationship. Gary Zucov says, “Relationship is the root of all influence.” This is certainly true. You can have all the knowledge in the world but if the person you are attempting to help doesn’t believe you care and have their best interests at heart, they, most likely, will not be listening to you.
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Choice Theory is actually an explanation of all human behavior developed by Dr. William Glasser.
Choice Theory pretty much rids us of the idea that people are “misbehaving.” All anyone is doing is their best attempt to get something they want. Of course in the process, they may break laws, disregard rules and hurt others but those are really side effects of doing the best they know how to get their needs met. We are all doing our best—some of us simply have better tools, resources and behaviors at our disposal than others.
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If we embrace Choice Theory’s concepts, then our function should be more to educate and help others self-evaluate the effectiveness of their own behavior. Know that often they will continue to do things exactly as they have because it’s familiar and/or because what they are doing really is getting them something they want. It is not our job to stop them, nor is it our job to rescue them from the consequences of their own behavior.