Mental Freedom™ Choice Theory
We need to clearly define Coaching as Mental Freedom™
Our minds are filled with rules, beliefs, values and other information we picked up as children, into adulthood and still today. Some of it serves us but much of it doesn’t. I have developed a system for freeing your mind so you can live the life you want to create instead of being a prisoner in a mind you unintentionally created that is holding you hostage. Responsibility, Trust and Appreciation are the trifecta of mental and emotional freedom.
Nobody likes to be blamed for things; it never feels good. So, when we make a decision or take an action that doesn’t work out, we want to find someone else to blame—the opposite of claiming 100% responsibility for your behavior. There is also another way we shirk responsibility: Have you ever told yourself or others, “I don’t want to do that, but I have to”? This lie we tell ourselves creates a lot of our misery. Instead of leaning into that cop-out, realize and accept that, everything we do, we do because we want to—if we didn’t, we wouldn’t do it. You may be thinking of many things you do, or have done, that you didn’t want to do: This is the brain conditioning we need to free ourselves of. You are 100% responsible for everything you do, including those things you deliberately choose not to do. No one can force you to do anything—you are a fully autonomous individual.
Let’s pretend someone has a gun to your head and tells you to do something you don’t want to do. You will likely choose to do it because you want to live. You can, of course, refuse and pay the consequences, but you will likely choose to comply. You may say, “I had no choice,” but that isn’t true. You could have said no and died. This is an extreme example, but it illustrates the point that you are 100% responsible for everything you do, and you do something because you want to.
The emotional freedom comes in when you get in touch with your why—why you want to do it. I want to do what the gunman says because I want to live. I want to pay my bills because I want heat in the winter and air conditioning in the summer. I work because I want to have a home to live in and a car to drive. I want to do something I may find difficult, annoying or unfair because of the benefits of doing so are worth it.
When you believe you are being forced to do things by outside forces, you create a lot of misery for yourself. Nothing can make you do something against your will. It may be unpleasant, but there will always be an internal reason or motivation for why you chose to do it. Accept that, own it and be willing to accept full responsibility for every action you choose—the good and the bad. This is the path to power and freedom. You are always in charge of your decisions, no one else.
The Unconditional Trust Challenge:
Mental Freedom™ Coaching
Do people or environments sometimes bring you discomfort, anxiety or frustration? Do you desire emotional empowerment when encountering these circumstances, but do not know how to achieve it? The Six Pillars of Mental Freedom™ can help. Incorporating the Mental Freedom™ framework into your life will deliver an approach to master any circumstance and a pathway towards achieving inner-peace.
We are here to teach this coaching method for nearly any goal. This process can be used regardless of what life is throwing at you.
You will learn the difference between responsibility and response-ability; how to unconditionally trust everyone in your life to do one thing, without feeling hurt or disappointed; how to distinguish between things you have to do and things you want to do); the two purposes your emotions serve and how to make them work for you; how to create closure and how to appreciate your life more.
Pay it Forward Scholarship for Mental Freedom™
I am fully committed to bringing Mental Freedom™ to everyone. . I am donating one scholarship for someone who is passionate about learning Mental Freedom™ Techniques but does not currently have the financial means to make it. Applying is easy, simply fill out our application. ne person from each group will be selected.
“I would highly recommend Mental Freedom™ coaching in groups or as couples or individuals. It was very helpful to me and allowed me to re-frame a lot of things that have happened in my life and that are occurring now to feel better about them. It is life changing!”
– Conry Davidson
– Conry Davidson
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Before Mental Freedom™, I was so disturbed by the idea of not being able to deliver all my values to my kids and make sure they will not make wrong choices or adapt negative behavior. I told myself if I have a successful marriage, then I must make sure they will be successful in their relationships. I started to get more anxious and unfortunately, more forceful. Only after taking the Mental Freedom™ program do I understand what my daughter was trying to tell me. She said, “You are forcing your understanding and your pictures of how things should be on me.” I thought it was my job, until I took Mental Freedom™. I now realize how my life and our relationship benefitted from the challenges the Mental Freedom™ program offers. It’s simple. It brought love back to me and brought me back my life.Nessren Ali
I would highly recommend Mental Freedom™ coaching in groups or as couples or individuals. It was very helpful to me and allowed me to re-frame a lot of things that have happened in my life and that are occurring now to feel better about them. It is life changing!Conry Davidson
Learning the mental freedom process has changed my life. It has helped me be more aware of my part in my own unhappiness and the unrealistic expectations that I have of others especially my family. The knowledge has allowed me to take more responsibility for my behavior and thoughts which has caused a difference in my how I behave and the way I think.Denise Daub
I enjoyed the opportunity to explore the concepts of mental freedom with a group of insightful people and under the leadership of Kim Olver. The information was relevant and I was able to apply it immediately to both personal and professional situations. And it was fun! Thanks to Kim and the group for such a meaningful experience.Patricia Robey
While MFP group coaching was fun and engaging, it was also challenging – which was what I was looking for. Time flew. Very safe. I felt connected to both Kim and the other participants. Helpful to hear everyone’s perspectives. Kim’s finely tuned skills in listening carefully and asking just the right questions were key for me.Sue Berry
This was a great experience and I learned much. I would so recommend anyone take with no matter what your goal as there is something for everyone to take away.Katherine Randolph
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