You don’t have to settle for mediocre in your relationship, you can achieve marvelous!
What Makes Happy Couples Happy?
Whether you’re in love and want to make it better, or are alone and want to get it right next time, relationship expert Kim Olver reveals the hidden truths behind happiness and satisfaction. Secrets of Happy Couples is different from other books of the same subject because it is based on one basic truth—that all great relationships begin and end with yourself. Any relationship is the sum of its parts: individuals. This book explores how you, as an individual, can make the difference and create a happy and fulfilling relationship with your partner. No other book has surveyed couples. Olver also interviewed prominent relationship experts and included their ideas in the book. She discusses the Relationship Cycle, beginning in the Alone Stage, moving to the Getting Together Stage, on to the Compatibility Stage, to the Maintenance Stage, and then back to the Alone Stage. At least 50% of us will find ourselves alone again due to death, divorce or personal decision. Kim doesn’t shy away from that fact; instead she provides tips and strategies to successfully navigate the grief of a lost relationship.
The Secret to a Happy and Satisfying Relationship
Hi, I’m Kim Olver author of Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner and, Your Life. I have always wanted to write a relationship book but I didn’t just want to write about my ideas. I wanted to talk to couples who were really happy and satisfied in their relationship with each other. So I decided to recruit those couples who had been together at least ten years where both individuals indicated separately that they were happy and satisfied in their relationship. I set my goal at 100 couples and went about talking and interviewing couples. I expected to complete my research in about 6 months. I really knew this book had to be written when it took over two years of concentrated effort before I could even find 100 happy couples.
The divorce rate in this country is a little over 50% with many who stay together doing so out of a sense of obligation, guilt or an assessment that there is more to lose in leaving. There are not enough people that are happy and satisfied in their relationships with their significant others. There are too many people out there living with relationships that are less than satisfying.
It took me two years to confirm what I have always believed to be true in relationships:
All Great Relationships Begin and End with Yourself.
This book can help everyone improve their relationships because it focuses on what YOU can do as an individual to improve yourself, your love life and sex life. This books contains seven (7) different exercises and quizzes including a Need Compatibility quiz, Rules of Engagement exercise, Steps for Recovery exercise and many more.
Believe it or not YOU can make the difference all by yourself. This book is about change and acceptance, not changing your partner but changing your behaviors to make your relationship happier and more satisfying. So if you are the one unhappy with aspects of your relationship, don’t wait. Start today. You hold the key to a happy and healthy relationship.
I like to use a modification to the serentity prayer, told to me by my friend, Ellen Gélinas
God grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change, Courage to change the one I can and the Wisdom to know that person is me.
One of the main reasons why so many people are unhappy in their relationship is that they look to their partner to make them happy. In order to be truly happy we have to realize that happiness comes from within. We have to take control of those situations that frustrate us by either changing the situation or changing our response to it. We must stop blaming our partners for our unhappiness and stop looking to them for the solutions to our problems.
Here is a sample of what you can achieve in your relationship when you start practicing the principles of Secrets of Happy Couples:
Happiness and satisfaction in all your relationships…including the one with yourself
I believe that if everyone followed the principles of Secrets of Happy Couples we would all live happier and healthier lives. We would stop spending the majority of our time and energy trying to change the important people in our lives and accepting them. This book will give you the tools you need to start improving those important relationships in your life and accept them instead.
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If you wonder what it takes to be happy as a couple, this book is for you. Kim uses real life stories, survey data, and practical skills; all of which point to success. Olver is breaking exciting new ground.” —Gary Chapman, Ph.D.
Self-love is the secret ingredient to happy, thriving relationships. In the Secrets of Happy Couples, Kim Olver guides you to look beyond the roses and rings, and to establish a deep inner state of love as the foundation for a successful partnership.Marci Shimoff
Secrets of Happy Couples provides a complete guide to relationships, starting before you are in one, taking you through the getting together, compatibility and maintenance stages while ending with how to manage the grief of a relationship ending, whether it be through death, divorce or a personal decision to separate. It’s brilliant. Olver provides a road map for success at any stage.Gina Mollicone-Long
Secrets of Happy Couples has all we need to know about having successful intimate relationships. Simple, down to earth information will help any couple improve their lives. Kim possesses obvious deep insight into human nature that we can all benefit from. One could continue to find value in this book in all stages of lifeKrisanna Jeffery
I wanted to say thank you for writing this book. I read the whole thing cover to cover over the weekend. I can honestly say it was an educational process and i have learned a lot. This has helped my relationship and me understand things that I didn’t before. I just wanted to let you know that this book has changed my life in a very positive way and regardless of the outcome of my relationship this book has had a great impact on my life. Thank you again for taking the time and the energy to write such a wonderful and educational book that had a really big impact on my life.Alex Kuperman