Grief: Finding the GLOW

If you follow this blog, you’ve likely read about finding the GLOW® (gifts, lessons, opportunities and wisdom) in our challenging life situations. Recently, a reader asked me to write more […]
G.L.O.W.:Transforming Post Traumatic Stress

G.L.O.W. stands for gifts, lessons, opportunities and wisdom. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Awareness Day is celebrated on June 27th. However, I don’t include the word ‘disorder’ when I talk […]
Grieving from a Choice Theory Perspective
When someone we love dies, it triggers a grief process that everyone experiences. It’s best described by Elizabeth Kublar-Ross in her book, On Death and Dying. In it, she discusses […]
Grieving from a Choice Theory® Perspective
When someone we love dies, we go through a grief process that was best described by Elizabeth Kublar-Ross in her book, On Death and Dying. This process is made up […]
Starting Over
Starting over after the loss of a loved one is a monumental task that can feel overwhelming at times. Whether there has been a death, a divorce, or a separation […]
Torn between Getting Divorced and Trying One More Time?
There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound statement! Anytime you have been hurt or disappointed in your life, it is truly because someone did not do what you expected them to do. End of story!
Adultery and Forgiveness
Trust is the behavior you choose when you want a healthy, connected relationship. When you choose trust, you simultaneously let go of the need to punish your partner. You will stop blaming, criticizing, and stalking your partner—you’ll let go of the idea that they’ll cheat again. You extend your trust because you want to be a trusting person in a trusting relationship.
Women and Divorce
I have joined forces with two other powerful women, Sharon Case, financial advisor; and Cathe Evans Williams, attorney, to provide educational classes to women making significant relationship decisions. Our first set of classes are geared toward women who are considering, going through or recovering from divorce. We will teach the financial, legal and emotional implications of divorce so our attendees can make informed, rather than strictly emotional, decisions. Our goal is to help women make smart relationship decisions based on up to date information. Should you know of anyone in the Chicago area in need of these services, they can sign up for any one of our three upcoming classes at https://www.therelationshipcenter.biz/calendar/workshops/personal/.
The No Drama Break Up
When you understand that everyone is doing the very best they can to get the things you want, then there is no need for a drama-filled break up. Why do people break up? Sometimes it’s because of a revelation and sometimes it’s slow building.
How Do You Handle Adversity?
Everyone has days when nothing goes well. What is your tendency when you are having a bad day? Do you look for others willing to hear your story? Do you choose to trust that nothing is inherently good or bad, and that whatever happens, you know you can triumph?