If you follow this blog, you’ve likely read about finding the GLOW® (gifts, lessons, opportunities and wisdom) in our challenging life situations. Recently, a reader asked me to write more […]
G.L.O.W. stands for gifts, lessons, opportunities and wisdom. Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) Awareness Day is celebrated on June 27th. However, I don’t include the word ‘disorder’ when I talk […]
When someone we love dies, it triggers a grief process that everyone experiences. It’s best described by Elizabeth Kublar-Ross in her book, On Death and Dying. In it, she discusses […]
When someone we love dies, we go through a grief process that was best described by Elizabeth Kublar-Ross in her book, On Death and Dying. This process is made up […]
Starting over after the loss of a loved one is a monumental task that can feel overwhelming at times. Whether there has been a death, a divorce, or a separation […]
There is no easy way to determine whether or not you have done all you can to prevent a divorce because the answer to this question is so individualized. Kyle Cease says, “No one breaks your heart, they break your expectations.” Think about that incredibly profound statement! Anytime you have been hurt or disappointed in your life, it is truly because someone did not do what you expected them to do. End of story!
Trust is the behavior you choose when you want a healthy, connected relationship. When you choose trust, you simultaneously let go of the need to punish your partner. You will stop blaming, criticizing, and stalking your partner—you’ll let go of the idea that they’ll cheat again. You extend your trust because you want to be a trusting person in a trusting relationship.
When you understand that everyone is doing the very best they can to get the things you want, then there is no need for a drama-filled break up. Why do people break up? Sometimes it’s because of a revelation and sometimes it’s slow building.
Everyone has days when nothing goes well. What is your tendency when you are having a bad day? Do you look for others willing to hear your story? Do you choose to trust that nothing is inherently good or bad, and that whatever happens, you know you can triumph?
Today, I spoke with two women who experienced major trust violations in their respective relationships. One was in a two-year exclusive dating relationship and the other was in a 30-year marriage. And the issues are similar. Both relationships have ended.